BDSM is not synonymous with violence or abuse. Rather, it represents a mindset or role play aimed at enhancing sexual experiences.
My activities at the Lux clinic were always consensual, even if they may not have seemed that way at times. The term 'consensual' indicates that any participant can halt any activity at any moment.
For instance, we utilized a designated SAFE WORD, which in my case was 'Lux, I am out.' This safe word could be invoked at any time by the submissive partner.
Throughout the program, I had the option to use the safe word to terminate our agreement and/or discontinue any task or treatment I was engaged in—IMMEDIATELY. I chose not to do so because I wished to fully experience the program. Although there were aspects of the program that I now regret (specifically the gangbang segment), I do not regret completing the program. I undertook the program independently.
Should you choose to replicate any of the events described in this book as a Dom, it is imperative to provide the submissive partner(s) with a 'safe word' that can be used to halt any activity at any time.
Conversely, if you are a sub wishing to replicate these events, ensure that you are given a 'safe word' to stop your Dom whenever necessary.
Failing to utilize a safe word is a sign of ignorance and is unrelated to the culture and art of BDSM.
Always establish a safe word, regardless of whether BDSM is a hobby, a lifestyle, or a profession.
Sincerely,
Monica